Bad Boys. Whatcha gonna do when they come for you? : Bad Boys

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What makes a Bad Boy so irresistible to otherwise, seemingly sensible women? What, exactly, have they got that nice boys don’t have? All things being equal, you know - background, money, education, looks - why do some women prefer the guy who’s gonna dump on her, to the guy who’d bring her flowers?

Women will tell you that the reason they date a Bad Boy is because:

• A Bad Boy makes life exciting and unpredictable, and is never boring.
• You feel protected with a Bad Boy, because he’s strong and self-assured, and has that “Don’t &*#% with me” attitude.
• He can be very charming, passionate and loving, underneath that gruff exterior.
• He brings out your maternal instincts.
• He doesn’t need you, and that makes him all the more attractive.

Take a look at all the celebrity Bad Boys – Colin Farrell, Charlie Sheen, Bobby Brown, Robert Downey, Jr., Rob Lowe, Hugh Grant, Russell Crowe – they’re still as popular as ever, and their Bad Boy status only elevates their appeal. You know they’re dangerous, you know they’re hot and that they’ve got a temper ready to ignite, but you want them anyway.

Non-celebrity bad boys are like that, too. As someone who’s dated bad boys, good boys and bad boys again, there’s no doubt that the bad boy’s have it all over their goody-two-shoes counterparts. My first date was with the high school smart ass; the teachers hated him, he was always cutting classes, or had something wise to say, getting into trouble all the time, being picked up by the police for petty crimes. He wasn’t even that cute. But man, I wanted him badly. He joined the navy after he left school, and came back when I was a senior. I remember him walking into the gym in his white dress uniform; I practically threw myself on him. I won’t go into details about that date, but it was memorable.

So, getting back to the topic at hand, are you sure you have an actual Bad Boy? Maybe he’s just having a bad day? You’ve got a real Bad Boy on your hands if he:

• Flirts openly with other women while you’re sitting there
• Makes you pay for all of your dates
• Calls at the last minute to ask if you want to go out, then doesn’t show up when you agree
• Forgets your birthday
• Hits on your sister
• Has a parole officer

What kind of women like Bad Boys? Some people like to espouse that psycho-babble stuff… you know if a woman likes a Bad Boy it’s because she’s got no or low-self esteem, she’s got masochistic tendencies, intimacy issues or has only had poor role models in her past. I say what a lot of crap. I don’t have any of those traits, and I like Bad Boys. Maybe I just like excitement, or fun, or am sick of the dull book worm types. To each his own.

One things for sure, at some point, you may have to justify your relationship to someone, whether family, friends or co-workers. Are you ready to hear the commentary, complaints and warnings and have you got your defensive responses ready? Just stick to your guns; you’ve gotta go with what feels good to you.