So you're dating a Japanese Girl... : Japanese Girls

[josher]

So you’re dating a Japanese girl, or there’s a Japanese girl you’d like to date. While our cultures are certainly different, most of the same rules apply, but if you’re in Japan there are some things that are good to know to help things go smoothly.

JAPANESE GIRLS

Japanese culture can tend towards being obsessed with gender roles. While things are changing in today’s world, many Japanese girls are still raised to be submissive to their men. Don’t be surprised to go out with your date and find her following you around quietly everywhere you go, and expressing very little of her own desires/opinions. If your date has traveled or lived outside of Japan, however, expect her to be more forward.

PDA IS A NO NO

Public Displays of Affection (especially kissing) are generally looked down upon in Japanese culture. In some ways this part of their culture is a little repressed, but in other ways it is quite open. Take the alluring massage parlors, for example, or the “Love Hotels” where a computerized attendant can give you a room for the night at $60 USD (they come equipped with condoms).

SHYNESS IS NORMAL

Japanese girls (and men) can be extremely shy and introverted in relationships. Take as evidence the existence of “Break-Up Agencies.” These are companies who specialize in assisting someone to break up with their partner, going as far as hiring women to sleep with husbands, so that photos of the event can be used to blackmail them into divorce!

Mostly, though, you can just expect communication to a little bit more difficult (outside of usual language barriers). Japanese girls tend not to be as open about feelings and doubts in a relationship as western girls.

GOOD NEWS FOR WESTERN MEN

For some Japanese girls, dating a “Gaijin” (foreigner) is a boost in personal status for them. What is considered a “good looking” foreigner is also evaluated on an entirely different scale. If you don’t have a good track record with western girls, you might find you’re suddenly in demand in Japan. There are bars and clubs you can go to that are targeted towards putting Gaijin men and Japanese girls together, so if you’re reading this while living in Japan it would be worthwhile to look into what’s in your area.

THINGS AREN’T REALLY ALL THAT DIFFERENT

In the end things aren’t too different: if you want to date a girl, show her the same respect and courtesy you would show any girl. All human beings like to know they are appreciated, cared about, and that they are found to be attractive. Don’t get too caught up in the cultural differences and try to focus on the common ground. If you’re afraid of doing something “Western” that might offend her, just don’t do it. Take things a little bit slow and be cautious about upsetting her, just like you would with any other girl who you don’t already know well.

KEYS TO SUCCESS

The keys to success are the same for dating Japanese girls or California girls. Be yourself, be kind, be thoughtful, be respectful, and be creative! Innocuous surprises like flowers or small gifts are appreciated by anyone. Make the date fun and exciting for her by being yourself and being open to who she is. Show her you want to know her by listening when she speaks and asking good questions. A little bit of interest and respect goes a long way, no matter where in the world you’re going on your date!

[Starlit]

So whats the big idea? I have guy friends that would date a japanese girl anyday over a western one. Why is it that they are looked upon more favorable when it come to sex. How did all this evolve?

[SingleShawna]

My sisters friend is dating one and he says they have beautiful breasts! .