Does a Muscle Man have room in his life for you? : Muscle Men

[Barbie]

There’s a lot to be said for a man with a muscular physique. For the most part, most men of dating age take good care of themselves. They eat healthful food; abstain (or minimally indulge in) drugs and alcohol, and use diet and exercise to keep their bodies toned. It’s a moral booster as well; if you feel good and look good, man, that’s a perfect high. The muscle man himself may have some shortcomings that they feel body building will help overcome (like baldness or bad teeth, maybe), or perhaps they just like the way they look when they’re in peak condition.

And women appreciate a guy who’s built. They really do. They love to step out on the arm of someone who’s got muscles that bulge and ripple, whether hidden under a well-cut Italian suit or a tight tee shirt and a pair of jeans. Even if they’re not stepping out with them, women enjoy watching a package like that walk past them, just as much as men like to ogle a woman in a mini skirt. It’s eye candy.

But is a “muscle man” dating material? By real muscle man, I mean a body builder, whether professional or amateur, not just a guy who works out a bit.

Rumor has it that, in general, muscle men are self-centered and egotistical people. If that’s the case (and hopefully there are some “muscle men” who don’t fall into this category and who will quickly dispel me of this notion), will a muscle man be able to give a potential partner the time and devotion that they deserve. Or is it going to be all one sided; entirely about him. Dating isn’t a one way street; it’s a lot of give and take, and flexibility.

The reputation of a muscle man is a poor one, and many women, once they get past that superficial and shallow desire to date an Adonis, may decide that they’d rather have that weakling, the guy who gets sand kicked in his face, who can treat her like a lady.

But how did they get that bad reputation in the first place? Well, just by virtue of the exercise, always posing in front of mirrors, slicking their bodies up with baby oil, shaving their hair off (what’s with that, anyway?!). I imagine it’s like living with the hulk, except for the green skin part.

So, what I’d like to know is, if you’re a man who’s into body building, can you tell me why you think you’re dating material, and not just because you’ve got a good body? If I were sightless, limbless person, who couldn’t see your shape and run my hands over your bulging pecs, would you be able to describe yourself to me in compelling terms that had nothing to do with anatomy? Because a woman really likes more than just a great body, at least once they get past that eye candy stage.

If you’re a woman, are you attracted to men who are built out, or do you prefer just a little definition? If you’ve dated a “he-man body-builder” what happened with that relationship? Did it take off or fizzle?

There are so many actors out there, in all stages of buff-ness, which one is your ideal? Would it be: Matthew McConaughey with his renowned washboard abs; or Mark Wahlberg the original white bad boy rapper; or Dwayne Johnson, better known as “The Rock,” who, I believe, needs no more introduction than that. Who has your idea of a great body? Or which one most closely emulates your own, if you’re the “muscle man” reading this?

[Pallo]

You have a good point there. I myself am not a muscle man yet i can tend to see how one would be geared to think this way.

In general I think you could probably say this about anyone though. If your passion is what you do like for some is being a muscle man then do you have room in your life for anything else but that?

Something to think about!

[AsianGoddess]

I would have pictured you to be a muscle man Pallol!

I don’t know I use to date a muscle man and he was more into his body and the mirror than a photographer loves there camera. Really, it was insane!!!!!!

Why do men do this?

I also wonder if muscle women act like this.

[autumn365]

I agree with Palo, if your passion is what you do like to do its just like your hobby and who in there right mind would not want to spend time on his or her hobby! Look at musicians and photographers! You can’t get them away from there dark rooms and instruments!

I use to date a muscle man and it did take a lot of time away from the relationship but that is what he wanted to do with his life. Why would I try and stop that, I am the one that came into his life so if I want to have some type of life with him then I am going to have to take an interest as he takes an interest in the things that I was interested in too. That was a long time ago though!