I feel differently though. I don't understand why I have to talk like Richard Simmons to really love someone. So what if I don't care to talk a lot. Those same women always ran straight to me when they needed any type of protection - like if something went "bump" in the night or one of their ex's was acting rowdy. Yeah, then I was the stuff!
From a man's point of view, love has different meanings than from a woman's. I know that this is the age of equality - and I have no problems with that. However, when it comes to women acting too tough and men acting like sissies, I draw the line. There are supposed to be differences between the sexes. It makes no sense to believe otherwise. I believe that a woman should show her love in different ways than a man and vice versa.
For women and men alike, love is when you go the extra distance for someone - when you sacrifice parts of your ease so that they can have a little more. I'm not saying that you have to suffer to show you care. No way! But, sometimes that's the way it goes. Love is when you feel nice to know that you helped someone else to feel nice. Love is when you think of another more than you think of yourself (at least at times). That's why it hurt when those ladies from my past would tell me that I was too hard. It wasn't necessarily me; it was life in general.
I know that I tried hard every day, like I still do, to provide money, protection, strength AND love. Why is a man supposed to be mushy and soft to show love. And yes, I understand what nurturing is. Nurturing is demonstrating with your actions, speech and thoughts that you care and want the best for the other person, yourself and the whole situation at hand - whatever it may be. When I acted more like a smitten sissy, they liked it. I would do that from time to time for their enjoyment. I can be a romantic guy. I help clean the house. I am a great cook and love to serve women. But inevitably, I had to return to my manly life and I couldn't always be that soft.
I guess that I am not sure what women want. It seems if I am a strong man, then they want a softy. If I try to be a softy, it doesn't work for me - at least not on a constant basis. My belief is that I know rather or not I love a given person. Why aren't women able to just accept a guy for being a guy. If your man is true to you, doesn't hit or talk mean to you, pays the bills and tries hard everyday - why isn't that enough. By the way, it's not because I'm ugly either - most call me "stunning to view"
So, I guess that love is individualistic. I guess that maybe everyone should only be concerned with rather or not they are being loving and not always feel like they need to judge whoever may claim to love them. Make any sense - or am I just nuts?