Keeping up with wild girls : Wild Girls

[josher]

Brittney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Ashley Simpson… the list goes on and on. Wild girls that are completely out of control seem to fill up half of any given news hour these days. We are fascinated when pretty, otherwise innocent looking girls behave as though they don’t give a damn about social conventions or future consequences—and rightly so.

These girls show us a way of life outside of a work-a-day nine to five lifestyle—they take risks (albeit ill advised ones at times), do what they want, and go after the lifestyle they desire. Meanwhile we sit back and watch and read about them, criticizing or applauding their wild behavior.

Of course a girl doesn’t need to be a celebrity to be wild. Go out to any local bar and I’m sure you’ll find a healthy handful of equally out of control females. We’re often attracted to them for the same reasons we are obsessed with misbehaving teen idols: their confidence, their courage to do what they like, and the atmosphere of fun and adventure that surrounds them.

When we’re tied up with one of these girls, however, things aren’t always so glamorous, especially if we aren’t by nature as wild. So how do we keep up with such wild and provocative behavior?

OPPOSITES ATTRACT

You know the saying, and in life we see it playing out all the time. People like to surround themselves with other types of people, especially in a relationship. We want people who can bring into our lives those things that we don’t already have, the other half to complete a whole.

What this means to you is: be yourself. The wild girl you’re dating is probably wild enough for the both of you. Don’t try to imitate her or keep up every single night. Most likely you’re a more stable individual, if we follow the opposites attract ideology, and that’s probably why she is attracted to you in the first place. So tag along, but don’t feel pressure to be as out of control as she is: she’s wild enough for the both of you.

EVEN WILD GIRLS NEED LIMITS

So you fell for her because of her “I don’t give a damn” approach to life—but now that she doesn’t give a damn about something that is important to you it doesn’t seem all that great.

Well, you signed up for it, so be prepared to compromise.

That being said, don’t be afraid to put your foot down. A wild girl will respect confidence and will power in their partner—if you don’t like something that she’s doing, or have different ideas about how to spend this Friday night, stand up for yourself! Let her know you have an opinion and the backbone to fight for it. If you never stand up to a wild girl she’s going to steamroll her way right over you and out of the relationship.

THINGS CHANGE

You love that your partner is out of control, the center of attention at parties, and drinks you under the table every weekend. That’s great. But if you’re planning on being together over the long haul, be prepared for change.

Even wild girls aren’t wild forever. There will come a day when she’ll start getting bored with that behavior, mature out of it, or just change her priorities in life as her needs and desires alter with age. There’s a good chance your wild girl is going to turn it down a few notches over the years. Be willing to go along with her and be open to a change of your own lifestyle in the process.

If you can keep up with her, stand up for yourself, and be prepared for her antics to calm down in the future, you should be able to make it out of the hardships of the relationship intact.